“Unlock Practical Ways To Overcome Ghosting“
Ghosting involves suddenly withdrawing from all communication with someone, often without explanation. It is usually talked about in a romantic relationship context. However, as many single mothers will vouch, it is not only restricted to the ex-partner but frequently to your ex-partner’s family and mutual friends.
Divorce is a challenging and emotional journey; it signifies the end of a marriage, a sense of failure and vulnerability. It is thus further intensified by also losing the most valuable connections. Being ghosted by people who were once an essential part of your life can leave you feeling hurt, rejected, and isolated.
When facing this difficult situation, it’s essential to know that you are not alone and that there are coping strategies to help you navigate this phase with resilience and grace.
- Allow Yourself to Grieve
Being ghosted by loved ones after a divorce can trigger feelings of grief and loss. It’s essential to acknowledge these emotions and permit yourself to grieve. You can read more about the stages of grief in my earlier article titled “A Helpful Guide to the Stages of Grief post Separation”.
Allow yourself to feel the pain, sadness, and disappointment. Remember, it’s okay to cry and express your feelings. Grieving is a natural part of healing; giving yourself the space and time to process these emotions is crucial. I have delved into some coping strategies in one of my previous articles, “A Practical Way to Deal with Separation Grief”.
- Reach Out to Supportive Friends and Family
While it may feel like you’ve lost many connections, there might be friends and family who are still there for you. Lean on those who offer support, understanding, and empathy. Reach out to them, talk about your feelings, and let them know what you’re going through. Surrounding yourself with a supportive network can provide comfort and remind you that you are not alone.
Single Mama Way has recently launched a new FB group, “Single Mama Tribe”. You can become a part of this group by joining the Single Mama Way Membership. Alternatively, there are numerous other wonderful support groups that meet online and also within your local area. Don’t worry about putting yourself out there; these mums are your village. They have been or are going through the same or similar situations. They care and wish to support you.
- Seek Professional Help if Needed
Dealing with being ghosted can be emotionally taxing, and if you find it overwhelming to cope on your own, seeking professional help is a brave and valuable step. Single Mama Way provides a safe space for you to talk about your experiences & emotions. Offering coping strategies tailored to your specific situation, empowering you to heal and move forward. The booking process is easy. The counselling sessions are virtual, so there’s no need to travel. BOOK with me HERE. You do not have to work through this alone.
- Focus on Self-Care
During challenging times, it’s essential to prioritise self-care. Take care of your physical and emotional well-being by engaging in activities that bring you joy and peace. Whether taking a walk in nature, indulging in a hobby, reading a book, or practising mindfulness exercises, self-care can help reduce stress and improve your overall well-being.
- Release the Need for Closure
Being ghosted often leaves us seeking closure and answers. However, it’s crucial to recognise that closure may not always come in the way we expect. Accept that some relationships might have ended abruptly, and you may not get the explanations you seek. Instead, focus on accepting the situation and moving forward without holding on to feelings of resentment or bitterness.
- Avoid Dwelling on the Past
It’s normal to wonder why certain relationships ended the way they did. However, constantly dwelling on the past can hinder your progress towards healing and growth. Try to redirect your thoughts towards the present and the future. Focus on creating a positive and fulfilling life for yourself and your children.
- Expand Your Social Circle
Being ghosted by friends and family can leave you feeling isolated, but it’s an opportunity to connect with new people who share your interests and values. Consider joining support groups, clubs, or community activities where you can meet like-minded individuals and form new friendships. Your child’s school, play groups or even FB groups can be a great place to start.
- Set Boundaries with Toxic Relationships
In cases where relationships were toxic or unhealthy, being ghosted could be a positive outcome in disguise. Use this opportunity to reflect on the dynamics of these relationships and consider setting boundaries with people who might not have had your best interests at heart. Then, surround yourself with positive influences that lift and support your journey.
A great place to start is “A Beginners Guide to Setting Healthy Boundaries“. You can grab your copy in the new Single Mama Way bookshop. A treasure trove of ever-expanding self-help books written and sourced for single mums like you.
- Focus on Co-Parenting and Your Children
As a single mother coping with being ghosted, it is essential to prioritise your children. Focus on nurturing a healthy co-parenting relationship with your ex-partner and fostering a loving and stable environment for your children. You may want to explore this a little further by reading “The Ultimate Guide to Improve Your Co-parenting Relationship”.
Use this opportunity to teach. By adopting child-appropriate analogies and language to stress the ghosting is not because of anything they did. Your strength and dedication as a mother will ultimately be the guiding light for your family.
Dealing with being ghosted by your ex-partner’s family and mutual friends after a divorce is undeniably tough. However, you can navigate this challenging phase with strength and resilience by implementing these coping strategies.
Remember that healing is gradual; taking it one step at a time is okay. Surround yourself with positive influences, seek support when needed, and focus on building a happy and fulfilling life for yourself and your children. You are not defined by those who choose to leave; your courage and love define you as a single mum.