Have you noticed that having a negative mind after separation is so effortless? We have all had those days when it seems like everything is going wrong, yet now they seem to be the norm and not the occasion. Understandably so. Everything, every responsibility, is now on you. Not to mention the feeling of starting a new life without your partners’ support.
Depending on how your partnered journey was, you might not be a stranger to raising your kids without support. Similarly, regardless if the ending was one-sided or mutual, you may have felt alone for a while now. Yet there is a powerful sense of finality when you find yourself the only adult in the house. The extra stress, the raw emotions and the feeling of loneliness weigh additionally on your psyche.
You can be tempted and excused to want to dwell on the negative. However, it’s vital you do not stay in this state for long. While it is important we acknowledge and allow ourselves to completely express our feelings. A prolonged negative mindset can limit our success in moving on, prevent us from achieving our goals and negatively impact our children’s post-separation recovery.
Thus in this article, I invite you to explore the concept of a negative mindset. Learn why it can be challenging to shift our opinion and why it’s essential to alter our perception to return to a happy future.
What is a Negative Mind?
Whether you refer to it as a negative mindset, negative thinking or just pessimism, it simply means a way of thinking that focuses on the negative aspects of life rather than the positive. This can involve dwelling on negative emotions, experiences, or outcomes, real or imagined.
Like viewing the world through a lens of impending doom, a negative mindset can lead to feelings of hopelessness, anxiety, and depression. It can prevent us from seeing the opportunities and possibilities available to us. Yet being a mindset, it is non-tangible and, therefore, non-fixed. It is something that we can change, nurture or cultivate. It’s not as impossible as you might think. We delve into the various tools available in the next article, “Unlock The Positivity Power: Sure Way to Transform Your Life.”
Limitations of a negative mind.
A negative mindset can limit us from successfully moving on in several ways. Focusing on the negative makes us more likely to experience hopelessness and despair. When you focus solely on the challenges of single motherhood, it’s easy to become overwhelmed and lose sight of the positive aspects of your life. This can lead to depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues.
Being stuck in a negative thinking mode can also lead to a lack of motivation and drive. When you’re only focused on the negative aspects of your life, your goals and aspirations lose value. Lacking the motivation to work towards your dreams and a sensation of being stuck in your current situation.
This in itself becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. As you constantly tell yourself that you can’t do something or are undeserving, you’re more likely to give up before you even try. Thus missing opportunities and hindering your growth both personally and professionally.
Moreover, suppose you’re constantly telling yourself you’re not good enough. In that case, it will affect how you perceive yourself and your abilities. Diminishing your confidence in many aspects of your life, including parenting abilities. Children are highly attuned to their parent’s emotional state. It will affect their frame of mind and behaviour if they sense that you’re persistently pessimistic.
Why Do We Struggle to Think Happily?
For several reasons, it can be difficult to shift our perception and adopt a more positive mindset.
One reason is that our environment and experiences impact our mindset. As we are exposed to negative messages or experiences, we internalize them, allowing them to shape our perception of the world. As a result, we develop negative thought patterns, which become difficult to break.
Additionally, our brains are wired to focus on potential threats and dangers. Thus, we’re more likely to notice negative experiences and emotions rather than positive ones in an attempt to keep us safe. Negative emotions serve as a form of protection. They can help us avoid taking risks and potentially experiencing failure or rejection. However, while negative emotions may provide comfort in the short term, they ultimately limit our ability to achieve success and happiness.
Finally, despite the limitations of a negative mindset, there can be a strange comfort in these negative feelings. We may feel a sense of familiarity and safety as we know what to expect from our thoughts and emotions. They may not be great, but at least we know them well. There is no unknown risk and no chance for further failures.
The Importance of Shifting Your Perception
Shifting your perception from that negative frame of mind is crucial for achieving success and happiness. By adopting a more positive mindset, we’re better able to cope with challenges and setbacks, as we’re more likely to see them as opportunities for growth and learning.
Additionally, positive thinking can boost our motivation and creativity, inadvertently improving our physical and mental health. As we shift our thoughts, we strengthen our communication skills and, thus, our relationships. By being more likely to interpret things positively, we respond with empathy and understanding. We become open and receptive to good people, allowing good things to enter our lives.
Changing the way you think requires some effort, but it becomes easier with practice. Like building good habits, regular small actions result in significant changes long term. As with many things in life, some will breeze through this task, and some will require more support. If this is you, do not fret. It is ok and certainly not a negative reflection on your abilities. There is no weakness in reaching out for guidance. Sometimes we need someone else to see the great in us first. Surround yourself with like-minded women, through the Single Mama Way membership.
In conclusion, a negative mindset can limit our success and prevent us from achieving our goals. While shifting our perception and adopting a more positive attitude can be difficult, it’s crucial for achieving success and happiness. By focusing on the positive aspects of life, we’re better able to cope with challenges, boost our motivation and creativity, and improve our relationships and communication skills. It’s important to remember that shifting our perception is not about denying negative emotions or experiences but rather about focusing on the positive. Book a supportive consult with me today, HERE.